Kasey remembered: “Something in me, in the way I felt about who I was, was off.
“Socially, things were difficult.
“I didn’t feel like I quite belonged with the other girls, so I would gravitate towards boys, but didn’t fit in there either.
“Back then, I didn’t know about the concept of being transgender, or even the word, but I knew I was different.
“I needed to talk to somebody that wasn’t in my direct circle about what I was going through, and so I decided to have counselling – a fact I kept to myself.
“In the end, I came out in 2015.
“Shea was the first person I told, and I had an idea that he would one day come out as trans too, but wasn’t ready then.”
The twins’ family was supportive of their decision to identify as lesbian.
And when Kasey decided to transition a year later, they were equally supportive.
The trans man started to take hormones, before having surgery to remove his breasts.
He revealed: “Everybody is different, so you are never too sure how the hormones will affect you.”
“You desperately want to see changes, and want to see them tomorrow – but know they will take time, so there were times when it all seemed too far away for me to be happy.
“When I first started taking hormones, I was still getting misgendered a lot and referred to as a female, which was very frustrating.
“At the time, as Shea wasn’t out, I didn’t know anybody else who was trans, so I did feel like I was going through it alone.”
Shea, a science student who is researching movement, supported his twin through transition.
And a year later, the graduate came out as transgender too.
Shea confessed: “He’d been so depressed for so long, I was really happy he was finally out and able to be himself.
“I thought he was incredibly brave and wanted to support him, but knew I also had some thinking to do about how I was going to come out.
“Because we’d always identified as ‘the twins,’ in the two years that Kasey was out as transgender and I wasn’t, it felt almost strange that we weren’t identical anymore.
“When he came out, I remember thinking how incredibly brave he was – but there was also that hint of jealousy that he could be his true self, whereas I wasn’t quite ready.”
Shea began taking hormones a year after his brother, before having surgery 18 months ago.
Following his transition, he began working with his brother to raise awareness about transgender issues.
They hope sharing their story will help others who are thinking about coming out.
Kasey said: “There are so many misconceptions about gender issues that are making the community feel unsafe and misunderstood. It’s a combination of a lack of conversation and a lack of effort to understand, but if we talk more, we can normalise it and help people to open up.”
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