Weddings can be challenging for the strongest of family units.
While they’re a major cause for celebration, emotions can run very, very high – and that may not bring out the best in everybody.
For one bride, 26, and groom, 28, things haven’t even gone smoothly since their nuptials.
It all started with a child’s white outfit, and ended with the pair not being on speaking terms since the wedding.
The groom ended up taking his concerns to Reddit, where he shared his side of the story and asked that age-old question – ‘Am I the a**hole?’
He started by saying the ceremony was ‘amazing.’
‘My wife was very strict on the fact that no guest is allowed to wear white, which is understandable because, for females, that’s considered rude or bad luck at weddings I think.
‘The reception was going well too, until I noticed my wife walking over to the bathroom with her face held in her hands. Obviously, I could tell my wife was upset as we’ve been together for three years now, and I can tell when she’s upset.
‘I rushed across the room telling guests “one minute” as I hurried by them. Once I got to the bathroom I knocked on the door and informed my wife that it was me at the door.
‘After a few minutes, I heard the door unlock and open. When I got in a saw my wife sitting on the floor with mascara running down her cheeks.’
When he asked what was wrong with his bride, she told him she was upset because one of their nephews was wearing white jeans and a white bow tie.
The groom went on: ‘I immediately thought to myself how she was completely overreacting because he’s a six-year-old child and had no idea that you can’t wear white to a wedding.
‘I told her she was overreacting, but in a much nicer way, and I said that she should go enjoy the reception and forget about the whole thing. She eventually texted her sister to come to the bathroom and fix her makeup, so she could go back out and have a good night.’
The groom thought all was well for a while, and when he saw his bride talking to his sister, the mother of the white-wearing nephew in question, he figured they were just having a harmless chat.
But oh, how wrong he was.
‘About an hour later my sister pulled me aside and berated me for my wife’s behaviour,’ he wrote. ‘She said my wife had asked her and her son to leave unless she had a change of clothes for him.
‘This was far from okay to me, so I asked my wife to talk and explained everything my sister told me. My wife said she was completely in the right for what she asked, and I told her that if she kicks my family out, then I will happily leave too.
‘My wife started crying again and saying that this is her day, and she doesn’t want it to be ruined by our nephew. This angered me because I had enough of her ruining our day over something silly.
‘I then said she was not only selfish but that she was insanely insecure if she was worried about a six-year-old looking better than her.’
Ouch.
The post ends with the groom saying that the bride has been staying with her mother ever since the wedding, and they ‘haven’t spoken once.’
‘Her mom reached out to me this morning and said that I need to apologise right away for being “out of line”’, he wrote.
‘I really don’t believe I’m in the wrong here so what do you think?’
Responses to his post have been mixed, with one commenter saying: ‘Take a good look at how she handles conflict as this is going to be your marriage. Doesn’t like your response? Throws everything out of proportion and runs to mummy.
‘It’s early enough for an annulment. Think about it.’
Someone else wrote: ‘Her reaction was really extreme, and I can’t make sense of why what that child was wearing even matters. You do not owe her an apology, and apologizing when she was that out of line is setting the tone for the rest of the marriage…’
However, others were left wanting a bit more context before they passed judgment on the situation, like whether the poster’s wife and sister have a history of not seeing eye to eye.
‘Why would your sister dress her son in white knowing it’s not acceptable?’ asked one commenter. ‘Does she dislike your wife?
‘On the surface, your wife is unreasonable and overreacted, it’s a male child not a woman in a white dress. However, if she is used to crap from your sister then her reaction would make sense as she would know that this was a deliberate act by your sister against her.’
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