I’m 28 and perpetually single so I’m going to start making the first move and ask out the men I like – but how do I do it without coming across brash and masculine?
- The woman, 28, revealed she’ll be asking men out on dates from now on
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A woman has revealed how she plans to shake up her dating style following years of being ‘perpetually’ single.
The unknown woman, 28, took to UK parenting site Mumsnet to announce she’ll be asking men out on dates from now on because she’s tired of sitting around ‘hoping a guy likes me back’.
The bold step includes ‘making the first move’ towards a guy she fancies so she no longer has to entertain ones she’s not the ‘slightest bit interested in’.
While she asked the forum if her fearless attitude could be seen as too ‘brash’ or ‘masculine’, many women said this was the exact way they found their husbands.
‘I’m ready to start making the first move’ she wrote. ‘Whenever I see a guy I like, I was always advised to sit back and let him notice me and let him ask me out.
An unknown woman, 28, has taken to UK parenting site Mumsnet, to reveal a shake up to her dating style following years of being ‘perpetually’ single (stock image)
‘This has left me 28-years-old and perpetually single. I’ve only ever been asked out by men I’m not the slightest bit interested in nor do I want to get to know’.
She said enough was enough as it was finally time to strike out and make a ‘direct move’ if she had any hope at a budding romance.
She continued: ‘How do I do this without coming across brash and masculine though?’
‘For people that are already married – did you decide you mutually like each other from the beginning or did one person pursue the other and then the other person gradually came to like the other person too?’
She urged others to share anecdotes of how their relationships began, to which many revealed they had initiated the romance on ‘several occasions’.
One person advised: ‘You have to not care about this. Who told you that being assertive and open is “masculine”? It’s horribly sexist.
‘Married a decent amount of time now. I approached my husband, I had an excuse! I flirted, he kissed me so a mixture. I’m not a shy, retiring flower though’.
Agreeing with this, another person said she texted her now husband: ‘I have made the first move on several occasions, including with my now husband.
The bold step includes ‘making the first move’ towards a guy she fancies so she no longer has to entertain ones she’s not the ‘slightest bit interested in’
‘I just texted and asked if he fancied going on a date sometime, and he replied yes, so I arranged a night out!’
Another suggested the poster brush up on her flirting skills: ‘Nonverbal communication is a crucial part of this picture. How’s your flirting?’
Meanwhile one person revealed that she asked her future husband for both a date and his contact number, adding ‘although I did take a friend’.
One user prepared a script for the woman to take along: ‘”Would you like to go for a drink, or food some time soon? And yes, I mean a ‘date’ type thing”.
They added: ‘If you are even more keen you can just suggest taking it directly to the next step.
‘No man is going to be insulted, except perhaps weirdos who have a thing about open and forward women. In which case, congrats, you’ve just weeded an idiot out in a matter of seconds’.
While she asked the forum if her fearless attitude could be seen as too ‘brash’ or ‘masculine’, many women said this was the exact way they found their husbands
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