Manifesting coach shares tips for positive thinking

Could positive thinking help you beat the winter blues? Manifesting coach reveals how being grateful, exercising and managing stress can ‘attract happiness’

  • Salarah Starre shares her suggestions for using the power of positive thinking   
  • Law of Attraction coach works to help people process worries about the future
  • Her suggestions include visualisation of what’s ahead and setting daily goals 

As the autumnal chill begins to venture into a dreary winter, many will be feeling discouraged about a looming desolation riddled with rising bills.

Amid the economic turmoil, it can be difficult to feel optimistic about what’s ahead.

Law of attraction coach Salarah Starre – who firmly believes ‘what you think about will come about’ – told FEMAIL the power of positive thinking can help you process a potentially scary future.

Having experienced an abusive childhood and turbulent teenage years herself, Salarah has been working to help people cultivate healthier mindsets since having a spiritual awakening in 2004.

Tips include practical and physical solutions, such as exercise, to more emotionally challenging concepts like giving yourself ‘permission’ to feel.

Salarah also includes suggestions on visualising your ideal future and cultivating an awareness of your thought processes.

Tips include practical and physical solutions, such as exercise, to more emotionally challenging concepts like giving yourself ‘permission’ to feel. Stock photo used

DON’T IGNORE STRESS 

‘Positive thinking isn’t about ignoring life stresses. It just means that you approach some challenges in a more positive and productive way,’ Salarah said.

‘Instead of thinking about all the things that could go wrong in life, you train yourself to think about all the things that could go right.

‘Positive thinking starts with how you talk to yourself. What are your thoughts when you wake up in the morning? Are they filled with doom and gloom about the day or are they upbeat and optimistic? What we think plays a vital role in how we feel.

DON’T SUPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS 

‘Give yourself permission to feel. It is important to acknowledge your emotions and validate any feelings that you have. When we deny or suppress our feelings, the stress builds and can show up in other ways in our life.

‘Attempting to suppress feelings creates more stress. If we don’t allow ourselves to express our feelings, we might have increased feelings of depression, hopelessness, and anxiety.

‘The process of acknowledging and sitting with your feelings can be a very powerful one. Take time to honour and validate yourself by allowing any feelings to bubble up to the surface.

‘This process can be very cathartic and is the first step to maintaining mental well-being. “Feeling our feelings” is essential for mental, emotional and physical well-being.’ 

‘How we feel then determines how we react and how we react will then create an outcome. Therefore, staying on top of your mental well-being is imperative as we go into the winter months and navigate our way through the current climate.’

SET DAILY GOALS 

‘Take a moment at the beginning of each day to set daily goals along with a deadline for completing them. It is important to know exactly what you want to achieve and make your intention as specific as possible.

‘The clearer and more concise your goals are, the more likely you are to achieve them. This gives you something positive to focus on throughout the day. It can be helpful if you write these goals down as they act as a powerful intention and you’re more likely to complete them if you can physically see them spelled out in front of you.

‘By setting and achieving your daily goals, you will feel a sense of accomplishment at the end of the day. ‘Having a positive vision creates a pathway for your future to manifest in the way you desire.

HARNESS THE POWER OF GRATITUDE 

Salarah said: ‘It is well known that a grateful heart attracts more to be grateful for. The Law of Attraction states that “what we focus on, we see more of”.

‘Therefore, gratitude can serve as a powerful tool as it is one of the healthiest emotions we can experience. Taking time out every day to write down all the things that you are grateful for will improve your levels of happiness and significantly reduce stress.

‘An attitude of gratitude will create more feelings of happiness and well-being but will also leave you feeling light-hearted and optimistic about your future. Yes, we have challenges to navigate but we also have so much more to be grateful than to be sorry for.

‘Taking time to acknowledge the good in our life will only attract more feelings of the same and increase the number of positive experiences and interactions we have.

FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT, NOT WHAT YOU DON’T WANT 

‘You can learn to change your negative thinking into positive thinking. You will notice how much better you feel for doing so. It does take time, practice, and dedication to create a new habit.

‘To start with you may want to identify an area of your life that you want to change and begin creating a positive mindset around that area. 

‘One fantastic way to do this is focusing on what you do want, rather than what you don’t want.

‘The more you focus on what you don’t want, the more you’ll see it and the same applies for focusing on what you do want. 

VISUALISE THE FUTURE YOU WANT 

‘Take time to think about what your ideal life would look like. And it is okay to think big! Think about an area of your life that you would like to improve and then take time to visualise how you would prefer it to be,’ Salarah said.

‘The best way to ‘ask’ the universe for what you want is to picture your life as if it has already happened. Your subconscious mind does not know the difference between which thoughts/visions are real and which are imagined.

‘Therefore, you can show your mind any story you like, and your mind automatically believes it to be true. To make the visualisation process more powerful, engage your senses (in other words, see, feel, hear, smell, and taste it).

‘This means that you will begin to attract and notice opportunities in your daily life to bring about your desired manifestation. Therefore visualisation is one of the most powerful exercises you can do to boost the law of attraction.’

‘This will mean cultivating awareness and checking in with yourself periodically throughout the day to evaluate whether your thoughts are positive or negative.’

ASK FOR SUPPORT 

‘When you’re going through a stressful time, one of the best ways to feel better is to get emotional support from somebody that you trust,’ Salarah advised.

‘This could be a friend, family member or a trained coach. Ask them to be a non-judgmental listening ear whilst you talk about and express your feelings.

‘Talking things through can prove to be a great stress relief and lighten any heavy load you might be feeling. Talking to somebody can help you feel less alone and leave you feeling a lot better just for letting it all out.’

TAKE CARE OF YOUR PHYSICAL BODY TOO 

‘Mental and emotional well-being is a lot more than a positive mental attitude. True health and well-being comes when we can look after our mental, emotional, and physical well-being.

‘We’ve all been told countless times how good exercise is for the body but many of us feel too tired and stressed at the end of the day to even think about that.

‘However, if you are suffering from excessive stress then any kind of movement can act as a stress reliever. Exercise can improve your overall sense of well-being leaving you with a sparkle in your eye and a spring in your step.

‘Physical activities such as walking, yoga or bike rides increase the production of your brain’s feel good neurotransmitters and act as an instant stress reliever.’

* Salarah Starre (nee Carolyne Bennett) is a U.K. based Advanced Law of Attraction Coach. Since 2004, Salarah has trained in Life Coaching, Meditation & Mindfulness, EFT, NLP and has studied the Kabbalah for seven years. 

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