My wife walks all over me and I feel like a doormat – it's making me feel weak

DEAR DEIDRE: IT is hardly surprising I feel like a doormat when my wife walks all over me.

I am 35 and a quiet man. My wife is 33. We have been married for three years.


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She is lovely but she rules the roost. I always end up going along with whatever she wants for a quiet life.

I feel weak and disrespected because I always give in.

But if I don’t, she erupts, becomes angry and makes threats to get her own way.

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I know this is learned behaviour because her mum is exactly the same way with her dad.

I have had enough but I don’t know how to stand up for myself.

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DEIDRE SAYS: No one enjoys being taken advantage of and you should never be afraid to rock the boat or stand up for yourself when something is not right.

If we have no boundaries and always aim to please, we leave ourselves wide open to being walked over.

My support pack Standing Up For Yourself will help you to be more assertive and tell your wife how you feel.

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