Stop trying to hit up people at work on dating apps

Digital daters will look for love anywhere, even at 30,000 feet in the air. Last month, 27-year-old college student JP Thorn posted a series of now-viral tweets about an encounter via the app Grindr, which uses location technology to match daters together. Thorn had matched with a Delta pilot while in-flight, although he didn’t find out until he landed. Cell service returned, and with it a message: “I see you’re on my flight . . . Enjoy the ride to Chicago.”

Thorn was initially creeped out (“I’ve had some weird experiences with proximity stuff on Grindr,” he told The Post at the time) but kept a chill chat going on the ground via the app before letting it fizzle out.

Thorn’s experience raises questions about whether or not this modern type of workplace flirtation — between employee and paying customer, via apps that match daters based on proximity — is kosher.

“It’s just not cool,” says NYC-based relationship expert Rachel Sussman of using hookup and dating apps to hit up clients when you’re on the job. “There needs to be professionalism, there need to be boundaries.”

Hope Morawa, 26, racked up a number of Tinder follies when she worked as a waitress at Catfish in Crown Heights over the past couple of years. She’d get home from a shift and check her app. “[I’d be matched with] one or two people I’d recognize from the restaurant during my shift,” she says. A Tinder match even messaged her once to say that she had been his waitress while he was on his own Tinder date with another woman. When Morawa wrote back asking how the date went, he told her, “You were funny, she was not.”

When you’re a worker on a shift, online suitors have the potentially problematic advantage of knowing where you’ll be and when. “People can find me on a schedule,” Morawa says. “Maybe don’t bring [that you know where I work] up as quick.”

Still, not all app propositions are unwelcome. During a trip to Williamsburg’s Rocka Rolla bar last year, Pittsburgh resident Mandy O’Mallie, 25, was approached by a bartender. “[He] came over to me with his phone and asked, ‘I don’t mean to bother you, but is this you?’ ” O’Mallie says. “He showed me my Tinder profile on his phone,” which then initiated a discussion about their worst Tinder date stories. “After a couple hours, we exchanged Snapchats,” she says. “We actually kissed, too.” They fell out of touch, “but he was actually one of the most down-to-earth guys I’ve ever met,” she says.

But 23-year-old Eli Friedman found that one proximity dater had a motive for matching with him beyond seeing sparks fly. Friedman, who is a manager at Brooklyn eatery Kulushkat went on a swiping spree during his downtime on a shift. “The next day I got a match and it turned out to be one of my customers,” he says. “She messaged me and asked if we went out I would give her free food.” When he said no, she unmatched him.

The most awkward part? The sassy swiper is still a regular at the restaurant — and frequently dines with her boyfriend. “I keep my mouth shut about it,” says Friedman.

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