I cheated and was forgiven like Rooney… and I'm glad or I wouldn't have my oldest child, says Ulrika Jonsson

COLEEN ROONEY’S 35 years on this earth do not appear to have aged her one bit.

In fact, she looks better now than when we first saw that cute, innocent little duckling, aged 16, walking side by side with her Premier League star boyfriend Wayne, who she eventually made her husband.


To think she has given birth to four boys, aged three, five, eight and 11. She is flawless and stunning and has blossomed into a beautiful swan.
Granted, she does have a lot of holidays . . . 

Now she has spoken for the first time about Wayne’s numerous infidelities and alleged there has been straying which, shockingly, has spanned nearly two decades.

In the trailer to a new Rooney documentary — due out on Amazon Prime next year — she says she has been willing to forgive him but says his behaviour is “unacceptable”.

It’s all too easy to judge people in the public eye. I should know, I have been on the receiving end for as long as Coleen has been alive. I know that feeling when you walk into a room of strangers and every single person has made up their mind about you.

It is not even a question of feeling like you are Marmite — you have to make the assumption that people dislike you in order to protect yourself. Anything more is a bonus and then you take it from there.

I am sure everyone has passed comment on Coleen — in their heads, to their close friends or on social media. I am sure everyone has, in her name and in her shoes, divorced Wayne or cursed her for not leaving him. I am certain she has been the butt of many jokes.

Many will have pitied her for the sad, lonely life she must lead — in a marriage and yet so very much on her own.

Many will feel only disdain, incapable of having any respect for someone so insipid and soft. Others will see only weakness and a woman devoid of any strength and decisiveness.

Some will sneer because she has been found severely wanting in the feminist department, and will pillory her for her apparent submission and the fragile pact of marriage she has made with a wealthy man.

And I am probably guilty of, at times, thinking there was a feebleness about her decision to continue to stand by him, whether in 2004 or 2009, 2010 or 2017, when Wayne’s various apparent betrayals came to the public’s attention (be that sleeping with a grandma prostitute, going to a brothel, kissing and cuddling someone or cheating while his wife was pregnant. His track record reads like a spin-the-bottle list of dares).

Ever the romantic, I wanted her to find happiness. I wanted her to find someone who truly loved her and was capable of showing her the respect she deserved.

‘He must quit booze or else’

By Sally Land, Dear Deidre Editor

THEY say a leopard never changes its spots, so why on earth would Coleen stay with a serial cheat?

For many, the reason for this baffling decision must lie in Wayne’s fame and fortune – why else would she repeatedly forgive his “mistakes”?

So is it really possible to rebuild trust after numerous betrayals?
Strengthening a relationship after an affair is certainly far from easy.

It takes hard work from both partners – and the crucial ingredient is honesty. I regularly hear from readers who have been heartbroken upon learning of their partner’s affair.

But by talking to one another about the changes needed – on both sides of their relationship – they manage to make essential alterations.

Coleen has spoken openly about how alcohol and Wayne often spell trouble. Giving up boozing would certainly fall under the “changes needed” heading if he really wants to give his best effort to his marriage and family.

Otherwise, I’m afraid, just like a leopard, he will return to his favourite hunting grounds of bars and nightclubs. And we all know what comes next.

He emerges worse for wear, judgment impaired and a gorgeous young woman at his side – who isn’t his wife.

But love does not always go that way. The older I get, the more I learn about love and the less I sometimes understand. Because things are not always black and white.

There might have been a time where I would have categorically banished any thoughts of being in a relationship where an infidelity had been committed against me.

For me, it would have been a deal-breaker, a non-negotiable. But then I was unfaithful in my first marriage and I was taken back by a husband who valued our relationship more than he hated what I had done to us.

And without that, I would not have had my oldest child, Cameron, who is about to turn 27.

Ultimately, we did not manage to run the entire marriage marathon because I lacked in maturity and self-knowledge, but there is, very much, an argument for sitting tight.

I am no psychologist, but the fleeting experiences I have had with the Premier League football world tell me that when young talent is found, it is harnessed by the big football clubs, and their keenness for the fledging stars to settle down — in marriage or a long-term relationship — as soon as possible does force a very unnatural, stunted maturity in these young men.

LOYAL WIFE

It suppresses the natural inclination to have girlfriends and play the field, if you’ll pardon the pun. Wayne and Coleen have known each other since they were 12. Dated since they were 16.

It is likely the only thing Wayne had tackled before Coleen was an opponent on the pitch. You can see what a perfect, steady, safe bet Coleen must have seemed to all those football agents and managers.

But Coleen is so much more than that. She is mum to four cute boys. She is a loyal wife and she, most crucially, also sees the bigger picture. She understands the value of her husband as a father in their boys’ lives.

She understands that she loves all of him and is willing to forego another kind of happiness because this is the one she has chosen. And if this is what she wants, then who are we to judge?

I am in absolutely no doubt that Wayne adores her and she him. Sure, she could set herself up on her own with her boys very comfortably and do exactly as she pleases, but she is choosing not to. There is something about that I respect.

Perhaps because I am not sure if my ego would allow me to do the same.




‘Selfish Wayne driven by ego’

By Georgette Culley, The Sun’s Sexpert

SOME couples can survive infidelity if the cheater takes full responsibility and learns from their mistakes.

But Wayne is a repeat offender who shows no signs of slowing down.
He is what relationship therapists call an “opportunist cheat”.

Generally, this type of love rat is driven by risk-taking behaviour — usually on boozy nights out with his pals.

But Wayne has also had alleged romps with a grandmother and a threesome with prostitutes.

He may not have any feelings for the “other women” — but he doesn’t consider Coleen’s feelings either.

His actions are selfish, driven by his sexual urges and ego. Coleen and their kids are always an afterthought.

But is it any wonder Wayne behaves the way he does when Coleen always forgives him?

While there is no excuse for Wayne’s behaviour, Coleen is not totally blameless either. Her con- stant forgiveness validates his infidelity — even empowers him.

When I found out an ex-partner of mine had played away, I ended it straight away.

I was in my 20s and on a weekend away with friends when he did the dirty on me.

Not only had he brought the other woman back to our flat and slept with her in our bed, but he had the cheek to question me about my “behaviour” on the girls’ weekend.

It was not the act of sex that had hurt me the most, it was his nonchalant attitude. His complete disregard for me as his partner. The secrets, the lies — the humiliation.

Of course, it is Coleen’s choice and she has her beloved boys to think about, but at some point she has to put herself first.

If Wayne strays again — and it may happen — she should have the courage to show him the door and close it firmly behind him.

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