Policeman who killed mistress is branded 'the worst kind of thief'

‘You robbed two children of a million hugs and kisses’: ‘Man wh**e’ police officer, 41, who admitted killing mistress is branded ‘the worst kind of thief’ by her husband as he’s found NOT GUILTY of murder

  • Timothy Brehmer was alleged to have ‘angrily’ throttled nurse Claire Parry in car in West Parley, Dorset
  • Attack on May 9 this year came moments after she texted his wife ‘I’m cheating on you’ from his phone 
  • Jurors found police constable not guilty of murder today after he had already admitted manslaughter
  • Brehmer was described as ‘womaniser’ during Salisbury Crown Court trial and will be sentenced tomorrow

Dorset Police issued this mugshot of Timothy Brehmer after he was acquitted today of murdering his long-term lover

A married police officer accused of strangling his lover of ten years to death was today blasted for ‘robbing’ two children of a ‘million hugs and kisses from their mummy’ as he was found not guilty of murder.

Timothy Brehmer, 41, described as a ‘man wh**e’ and ‘womaniser’ in court, was alleged to have ‘angrily’ throttled nurse Claire Parry in his car in West Parley, Dorset, in May – moments after she texted his detective wife ‘I’m cheating on you’ from his phone.

But although the police constable used enough force to fracture her neck in three places, jurors in Salisbury decided he had not intended to kill Mrs Parry.

Today, following a 12-day trial, Brehmer remained emotionless in the dock as he was acquitted of murder after jurors deliberated for two hours and 50 minutes. He will be sentenced tomorrow morning.

Later this afternoon, Mrs Parry’s devastated widower Andrew Parry condemned Brehmer for being ‘the worst kind of thief’, claiming he told ‘lie after lie’ and shed ‘crocodile tears’ during the trial.

Mr Parry said his wife’s death will leave a ‘gaping chasm that will stick for eternity’, while Mrs Parry’s parents said they have suffered ‘bitter, bitter pain’ at the thought of their grandchildren being raised without a mother. 

It was also revealed today that Brehmer was known by his colleagues in the force as a ‘sexual predator’ who preyed on ‘vulnerable’ emergency workers.

A source within Dorset Police told MailOnline how well-spoken Brehmer had a reputation at work as a ladies’ man who managed to charm a number of lovers from within his own unit.

They said the smooth-talking officer, who is married to a detective in the same force, told each woman ‘you are the only one for me’ and sent song lyrics and sexualised messages to ‘suck them in’.

Timothy Brehmer, described as a ‘man wh**e’ and ‘womaniser’ in court, with his wife Martha

Brehmer had been accused of the murder of nurse Claire Parry (pictured) in a Dorset car park

Mrs Parry’s husband Andrew (pictured), also a police officer, has been left to bring up the couple’s two children alone


The court heard Brehmer had at least three affairs outside of his 14-year marriage. Detective Constable Kate Rhodes (left, earlier in the trial’ and, right, on her wedding day), who ‘quickly fell in love’ with Brehmer, branded him a ‘man w***e’

Brehmer’s mother, Rosalyn Chivers, and his sister Kirsten cried and hugged each other moments after the verdict was delivered.

In his trial, Brehmer said he was trying to push Mrs Parry out of his car in a struggle after she confronted him because she was ‘angry’ at discovering his previous affairs.

Killer police constable is ‘the worst kind of thief’, says victim’s husband

The husband of a nurse killed by her police officer lover has described the heart-breaking moment he had to tell his two children their mother had died.

Andrew Parry said former Dorset Police officer Timothy Brehmer had caused his family immense pain and ‘he is the worst kind of thief’.

Addressing Salisbury Crown Court, Mr Parry, also a police officer, said Brehmer’s actions had left a ‘gaping chasm’ in his family.

‘I’ll never forget telling my children that their mother was dead,’ Mr Parry said in his victim impact statement.

‘It was about two hours after Claire had passed away, so I was still in shock.

‘I remember walking along with them thinking, ‘I’m about to burst your bubble, and bring your whole world crashing down’.

‘It was like a physical weight crushing down on my chest.’

Mr Parry said he chose a quiet spot in a park to tell them.

‘Then my son smiled his usual cheeky grin and says ‘You’re pranking me’,’ he said.

‘His sister put her hand on his arm and said, ‘No, he’s serious’. His face crumpled as he realised that I was serious and he would never see his mummy again.

‘He refused to look at me as if it would not be true if you didn’t make eye contact.

‘My daughter started crying and said, ‘I want to go home’. It was a simple request and in that moment I would have given anything to be able to grant it.

‘But I couldn’t as my home was cordoned off by the police. It was a crime scene.’

Mr Parry condemned Brehmer for putting his family through the public humiliation of a trial.

‘This trial has been a whole new level of pain and humiliation for me, listening to Brehmer telling lie after lie,’ he said.

‘Then having to sit through more of Brehmer’s lies, crocodile tears, while showing no remorse for depriving two children of their mother.

‘This trial was Brehmer’s one opportunity to spare his and Claire’s family some pain.

‘He took that opportunity and twisted it into a new way to torment us, allowing all of Claire’s shortfalls to be publicly displayed while all of her good qualities and deeds were overlooked.’

He went on: ‘He also had the opportunity to ease the family’s pain by telling us what has happened to Claire. Instead he chose to tell lie after lie.

‘Brehmer will now go to his grave being the only person who knows what happened in that car park, causing further torment to us for the rest of our lives.’

Mr Parry said his family had now lost his wife’s annual £50,000 salary and he had been receiving counselling after being diagnosed with anxiety and depression following his wife’s death.

‘I cannot imagine what physical toll this incident will take on me,’ he said.

‘A year ago, I underwent two heart procedures and as a result I will be taking medication for the rest of my life.

‘I have spent the last five months in a perpetual state of stress and anxiety. While I’m not a cardiologist, I cannot imagine that as good for my heart.

‘This creates further stress and anxiety because I know that if I die my children will be orphans because Brehmer has robbed them of their mother.

‘This is how I feel about Brehmer. He’s the worst kind of thief. He’s stolen a mother, a wife and daughter. Claire meant so much to so many people.

‘He has robbed our children of a million hugs and kisses from their mummy. It is simply impossible to quantify what he has taken from us. So much can never be replaced.’

He added: ‘It is impossible to know exactly what has been stolen from our children, their children will never know their grandmother.

‘There will be an empty space at the table this Christmas, this empty table space will echo into the future of Christmases, birthdays, weddings.

‘Brehmer hasn’t left a hole in our lives, a hole has edges – a beginning and an end – Brehmer has left a gaping chasm in our lives that will stretch on for eternity.’

He described the incident as a ‘kerfuffle’, claiming he ‘fell on top of her by accident more than anything’ and his arms must have ‘slipped up’ around her neck while he was behind her in a ‘piggy-back position’.

Brehmer sobbed as he told jurors: ‘I’m responsible for her death. I must have [used too much force]. I absolutely did not want to kill her or cause serious bodily harm. I didn’t intend to kill her.’ 

After hearing the statements, judge Mr Justice Jacobs adjourned sentencing until tomorrow. He is considering whether to sentence Brehmer on the basis of accidental and unlawful manslaughter or manslaughter due to a ‘loss of control’ which would have been triggered by Mrs Parry sending the ‘I’m cheating on you’ text .

This afternoon, Dorset Police constable Mr Parry kept a brave face as he told jurors of the devastating impact the killing has had on his two children.

He told the court: ‘Brehmer has robbed them of their mother. This is what I think of him – he is the worst kind of thief. He has stolen a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister, an aunt, a niece and a friend.

‘Claire meant so much to so many people and he has robbed me of the opportunity to save my marriage. He has robbed my children of a million hugs and kisses from their mummy.

‘This trial has been a whole new level of pain and humiliation for me, listening to Brehmer tell lie after lie.’

Mr Parry told of his pain at having details of his family life revealed in court, adding: ‘Then, having to sit through more of Brehmer’s lies in court and crocodile tears.

‘[He has shown] no remorse for Claire. The trial was his last chance to show Claire’s family some remorse – he took that and twisted it.

‘Brehmer will now go to his grave being the only person knowing what happened in that car park. Claire saved an untold number of lives as a nurse and Brehmer robbed her of this.

‘It’s impossible to know what’s been stolen from her children, but I know that their children will not know their grandmother and there will be an empty space at the table this Christmas.

‘Brehmer has not left a hole in this life… He has left a gaping chasm that will stick for eternity.’

He also revealed how he told his children their mother had died while at a park.

He said: ‘I was walking along with them, thinking ‘I’m just about to burst your bubble, to bring your world crashing down’. It was like a weight on my chest.’

He said at first his son said ‘you are pranking me’ but when he realised he wasn’t he began crying.

Mr Parry expressed his horror at his colleagues carrying out investigations at his home – which was a crime scene – and examining the intimate details of his life with Mrs Parry.

He added: ‘My daughter woke up crying and asking for mummy in the middle of the night, nothing I could do would help her.

‘I was so useless. I have never felt so lonely. This is when I have felt the effects of this, being the only adult in the house in the middle of the night.’

He said Mrs Parry was earning £50,000 a year and ‘in the next 20 years would have brought £1million’ into the household but said this is ‘miniscule compared to the losses we have suffered’.

Mr Parry, who last year had two heart procedures, has been prescribed tablets and diagnosed with depression and anxiety since his wife’s death.

He said: ‘I’ve spent the last five months in a perpetual state of stress and anxiety… that’s not good for my heart.’

Jane and Philip Jordan, Mrs Parry’s parents, said: ‘Due to the actions of Brehmer we have suffered the heartbreaking loss of Claire.

‘As parents the ability to talk about shared memories and relive shared past is part of our being. To have them taken for us is heartbreaking and tragic.

‘Watching Claire love and care for her children while they were going through changes is something we cherished, this has been ripped from us and we are only left wondering what may have been.

‘We were immensely proud as Claire as… a nurse, proud of the lives she helped and saved.’

They added: ‘Her violent and sudden death has left a chasm. Claire’s children have now got to go through their lives knowing this man took the life of their mummy.

‘They will not be able to share their triumphs and disasters with their mum – this is a bitter, bitter pain.

‘This man has caused devastating changes to our lives which we will always live with and suffer.’

Mrs Parry was left with ‘unsurvivable brain injuries’ after she was strangled in the car park of the Horns Inn pub at about 3pm on May 9 and died in hospital the next day.

Her marriage to Mr Parry was falling apart as he discovered her relationship with Brehmer, also of Dorset Police, however Brehmer’s detective wife, also from the same force, had no idea about his flings. 

Brehmer sobbing as he is arrested by police in the back of an ambulance in Dorset on May 9

Brehmer (pictured) worked for Dorset Police and had been a police officer for 17 years 


Brehmer said Mrs Parry (above) accidentally suffered the fatal injury in a ‘kerfuffle’ in his car 

Brehmer’s sister Kirsten (left) and his mother Rosalyn Chivers (right) at Salisbury Crown Court on October 22

Brehmer said: ‘Never for one second did I ever intend to hurt her, we’d been seeing each other on and off for 11 years, I can’t say that I loved her but I definitely cared for her.

‘Things had changed recently, it had all gone so wrong. It was always the unwritten rule of the affair that you don’t ask about the other people but all of a sudden she wanted to know all about my life.’ 

Recalling the struggle, he added: ‘She was on her front in a press-up position. I didn’t mean to hurt her, I fell on top of her by accident more than anything.

‘I was trying to grab hold of her, my arm was around her.. it was just a kerfuffle. If you imagine a piggy-back.. to hold on you have to have your arms around them.

‘I was directly on top of her like a piggy-back, I was trying to bump her out of the car. I was trying so hard to get her out and she was actively doing all she could to stay in.

‘My left arm was around the top of her chest, by the collarbone, but it must have slipped up in all the melee. 


Two sketches of Brehmer giving evidence in his trial at Salisbury Crown Court last week

Police bodycam footage of Brehmer being attended to by paramedics in West Parley in May  

Police body cam footage showing the arrest of Brehmer outside the pub in West Parley in May

‘I was slowly getting her out of the car but I don’t know how long it went on for.

‘I’ve tried to think about this every day since I’ve been in prison, maybe she was trapped in the car I don’t know. There’s so many ‘what if’s’ that go through my brain.’

Salisbury Crown Court heard Brehmer had at least three affairs outside of his 14-year marriage.

Detective Constable Kate Rhodes, who ‘quickly fell in love’ with Brehmer, branded him a ‘man w***e’ and the police officer even described himself as a ‘devious b*****d’ who kept his wedding ring on during affairs.

Brehmer and Mrs Parry used ‘secret chats’ to communicate, had sex as often as twice a week and just days before the incident the pair had an ‘intimate quickie’. 

A police photograph of Brehmer’s grey Citroen car in which Claire Parry died at the Horns Inn

Brehmer is seen on CCTV at the Horns Inn in West Parley after meeting Parry on May 9

Brehmer’s wife has not seen her husband since he killed Mrs Parry. Brehmer’s family and friends have insisted he is a ‘true gent’.

It can also be revealed today that, so distressing was the trial, one juror had to be discharged because of the impact it was having on her mental health.

Brehmer, who admitted manslaughter but denied murder, is a former traffic officer who was seconded to the National Police Air Service and lived with his wife and their nine-year-old son in the village of Hordle in Hampshire’s New Forest National Park.

Mrs Parry, who had an eight-year-old girl and a six-year-old boy with her husband Andrew, a Dorset Police officer, was a nurse practitioner at a medical centre in Bournemouth, Dorset.

Brehmer will be sentenced for manslaughter at 10am tomorrow morning. The judge said this afternoon that he wished to have a ‘little time’ to consider the ‘appropriateness of the sentence’.

Last month Brehmer was dismissed without notice from Dorset Police following a disciplinary hearing.

Chief Constable James Vaughan said today: ‘As police officers our duty, first and foremost, is to protect the public and for a serving officer to take a life of another in this way is incomprehensible.

‘His conduct fell dramatically below that which I, his colleagues and the public expect from a police officer and he clearly has no place holding the office of constable.

‘Our thoughts very much remain with Claire Parry’s family, friends and loved ones. Our commitment to supporting her family and all those good officers in the Dorset Police family who have been affected by this incident will continue.

‘I would like to thank the investigation team for the fair, dispassionate and professional manner in which they approached this extremely difficult case.’

Revealed: Mistress strangled by married lothario PC Timothy Brehmer in a pub car park colluded with ANOTHER of his lovers to ’embark on his long and slow downfall’

By Jake Wallis Simons and James Fielding For MailOnline 

The police officer who killed his mistress after she revealed their ten-year affair to his wife was known by his colleagues in the force as a ‘sexual predator’ who preyed on ‘vulnerable’ emergency workers.

PC Timothy Brehmer strangled nurse Claire Parry in his car after she used his phone to text his detective wife of 14 years, telling her: ‘I’m cheating on you’.

During his trial the court was told that Brehmer had charmed a series of women and was dubbed Mr Smooth by one because he was a ‘professional at grooming them’.


Claire Parry (left), who had a ten year affair with Tim Brehmer, contacted another of his mistresses Detective Constable Kate Rhodes (right) on Facebook to plot his downfall 

DC Kate Rhodes, a former lover of Brehmer, told the jury she ‘quickly fell in love with him’ after they met at work but that she finished the relationship once she discovered he was married.

And a source within Dorset Police told MailOnline how well-spoken Brehmer had a reputation at work as a ladies’ man who managed to charm a number of lovers from within his own unit.

They said the smooth-talking officer, who is married to a detective in the same force, told each woman ‘you are the only one for me’ and sent song lyrics and sexualised messages to ‘suck them in’.

Yet despite his ‘streak of arrogance’ the father-of-two, who was born in Zimbabwe and raised by his mother and stepfather in Hampshire, was well-liked and good at his job, which helped him to ‘hide a multitude of sins’ and meant bosses often turned a blind eye to his womanising.

‘Dorset is a small force, everyone knows everyone, and Tim had this reputation as a serial womaniser,’ said the source.

‘He was said to be a proper sexual predator who targeted mainly vulnerable women who he worked with both in the police and in other emergency services.

‘I personally know at least one officer he had a drunken kiss and fumble with. She had just split from someone at the time and he wormed his way into her affections but it was all just a lie and he was a married man.

Brehmer, pictured with his wife Martha, he was acquitted of murder at Salisbury Crown Court

‘There are others, although exactly how many I can’t tell you. He had a streak of arrogance which helped him lie and cover his tracks over his affairs.

‘Tim was well-spoken and was often mocked by his colleagues because of it but he used it to his advantage when it came to chatting up women.

‘He could lay on the charm and was pretty well-liked by his colleagues and that, coupled with the fact that he was good at his job, helped to hide a multitude of sins.’

Bosses turned a blind eye to his fling with DC Rhodes in 2011. She tearfully described him to jurors as a ‘groomer who has a tool kit he uses on every woman he encounters.’

She said that in 2016, years after they had last seen each other, Brehmer made her ‘feel like a piece of meat’ by texting while she was on holiday with her husband, calling her a ‘dirty b***h’ and suggesting they meet for sex.

News of his affair with DC Rhodes had got back to his long-term on off lover Mrs Parry.

She had become angry that she wasn’t Brehmer’s ‘only other woman’ and plotted his downfall.

She set up a fake Facebook account using the name ‘Louisa Morgan’ and contacted his only other known lover, DC Rhodes.

The pair established that Brehmer was likely to have had more lovers in the emergency services, including another police officer.

Mrs Parry said she intended to ruin his life by confessing to his wife, Martha, referring him to the police watchdog and reporting him to the taxman for failing to declare a second income he made from gardening and odd jobs.

In messages to DC Rhodes, Mrs Parry, a fitness fanatic, wrote ‘hell hath no fury’ and said she was ’embarking on a long and slow downfall of Mr ‘man-whore’ Brehmer.

Her fling with Brehmer had begun in 2006 when she worked at the Royal Bournemouth Hospital and although their relationship was no more than ‘sexually flirtatious’ to begin with they eventually began sleeping with each other.

Brehmer told the court his affair was ‘its own little bubble of niceness.’

But he said things had ‘gone bonkers’ between them in Mrs Parry’s final as he marriage collapsed and she had broken their ‘golden rule’ by asking him about his home life.

Mrs Parry’s husband Andrew told the court that by that time he had started tracking his wife when he became suspicious about the affair by hiding their daughter’s mobile in her car and tracing her whereabouts using an app.

He had found an email she had sent to Brehmer in which she said she would never love someone as much as him, as well as Travelodge bookings on their joint bank account and a man’s rugby shirt under the couple’s marital bed.

Mr Parry confronted his wife in February and she confessed that she had slept with Brehmer once.

The couple had counselling sessions but Mr Parry said he had accepted the marriage was over.

In the weeks leading up to her death, Brehmer told the court that he and Mrs Parry had met six times on dog walks before work, and that she had threatened to tell his wife. 

Married cop Brehmer sobbed ‘What’s my mum going to say?’ in the ambulance after strangling his lover Mrs Parry to death 

He was desperate to cover up their affair and on May 9 told Mrs Brehmer he was going to pick up some steaks for a family barbecue they were having later that day.

Instead, he drove to the car park of The Horns Inn in West Parley, Dorset, where he met mother-of-two Mrs Parry, to dissuade her from revealing their affair.

Just after 3pm that Saturday afternoon, she got into Brehmer’s Citroen C1 car and the pair began arguing, with Mrs Parry asking for his phone so she could look through his social media apps and see who else he had been in contact with.

After sending the message to his wife, he said she had refused to leave his vehicle so he tried to robustly force her out.

The court heard that Brehmer had strangled Mrs Parry so forcefully that a bone in her neck had broken and that a passer-by had found her body hanging half in and half out of his car.

One leg was wrapped around the gearstick and the other was on the passenger seat

At some point, Brehmer, who said he was severely depressed as his life started to unravel and had planned to kill himself after meeting with Mrs Parry, stabbed himself three times in the arm with a penknife.

He was seen on CCTV walking shoeless across the car park to the entrance where he sat down covered in his own blood, sobbing, before asking passers-by for help.

He initially told colleagues who arrested him that Mrs Parry had stabbed him only to later change his story.

He admitted her manslaughter but denied any intent to cause harm, claiming that he had ended up on top of her, with his left arm around the top of her chest, and that she had died accidentally as a result of that struggle.

The jury at Salisbury Crown Court believed him and he was cleared of her murder. 

Brehmer joined the police in 2003, first working in Bournemouth as a beat officer before joining the road traffic policing unit in 2010.

In 2015, he suffered a serious thumb injury after being assaulted by a 56-year-old motorist he had pulled over, which prevented him from driving.

After some time off work, he was seconded to the National Police Air Service (NPAS) and became part of the police helicopter crew, operating the camera and assisting with navigation.

He had met Martha in 2003 and the couple married three years later. They have a nine-year-old son together who she lives with at the former marital home in Lymington, Hampshire.Publicly Mrs Brehmer has declined requests to comment on her husband’s case. However, the court was told that the last time she spoke to her husband was on May 9 when he told her he was going to buy steaks for the barbecue. 

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